Last Tip: Getting the Look from Your Husband

Be Nice!: Yep, it's that simple.

I wish it were that easy. Actually, this may be the most difficult one of all.

Many times we allow the issues of life (past, present and future) to affect how well we treat our husbands. Without realizing, life has eroded the easy going, free spirited and fun loving wife he first married into a quick tempered, cranky and irritable woman.

We can make all the excuses and justifications in the world. Some actually may be very valid. However, it is nearly impossible for a man to love you like a rose when you respond to him like a thorn bush. He can't cuddle with you as a gentle Labrador, when you are growling like a Pit bull. His attraction will quickly fad for the shrew, even if she's sexy. However, it will stay lit for the girl that giggles, even as she grows old.

So the final tip in getting more "looks" from your husband and increasing his attraction towards you is to "simply" be nice!

Go turn up that fire ladies!!!!!!!

Getting the Look: Tip 4

Compliment him!: Ladies, somehow we have convinced ourselves that we are the only ones that need an ego boost. In actuality, men may need it more than we do. A man's ego drives his emotions and decisions far more than most other factors.

When we make a man feel wanted and desired, he will naturally begin to want and desire you more. Start throwing out compliments and watch them boomerang right back to you.

The next time your man dresses up, returns home from the gym or gets a fresh haircut, make it clear to him that you notice and like it. Whistle at him when he bends over. Make a scizzling sound when he takes his shirt off. Rub your hand slowly across his back and shudder as he passes.

If you want your man to find you highly attractive, then let him feel your attraction towards him. If the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, then a way to a man's heat (passion for you) is through his ego.

Tip 3 : Look at Him!

C. I look at him. – Something so simple and subtle is changing the game. I no longer just look into the pot of boiling water while I cook.  As he sits at the kitchen counter while I cook, I turn the heat to a slow simmer, take a pause and listen to him. Instead of thumbing through Facebook, occasionally nodding to signal I am listening, I put my phone down and turn towards him while he talks.  Lately, I am looking at him when he speaks. This lets him know I am interested in what he has to say. This shows that I am putting his conversation and concerns above any other person in the world for that moment. It allows him to see me smile and giggle at his humor. Occasionally, we catch glances and speak to each other with our eyes. Looking at him makes him see me differently. He sees me as the girl who finds him funny, interesting and smart. Men are attracted to women who think highly of them. So slow down ladies. Put the phone down. Look at your man and he will start “looking” at you in a way that he has not in a while.

The "Look": Tip 2

B. Less familiar. More flirty. – If you ask most married women what is one of our favorite perks of marriage, somewhere on our list would be the ability to “just be ourselves”. Translation: We walk around in head scarves, sweat pants and T-shirts much of the day while leaving the door to the bathroom open while handling all of our business.  

True enough, there is great contentment in having a life partner that you are completely comfortable around. However, for many wives, that comfort has morphed into complacency. Ladies, though comfort with someone increases over time, physical attraction can decrease over time if we are not intentional.  

I have made a conscientious effort to be less of the familiar wife and more of the flirty girl. I put on lip gloss and powder before going into the house after work. I make sure my arm pits stay shaved. I invested in several comfortable yet cute lounging outfits. I shower before coming to bed and spray a little perfume. And if you would allow me to get “real real”, I no longer use the toilet in our master bedroom when needing to handle my business.

Do I have to do this? No! Should I have to do this? Maybe. Do I want to do this? Yep, because if I don’t continue to turn my husband on, somebody else will.

I enjoy being my husband’s partner. I like being his friend. Sometimes though, it’s fun being his girlfriend.

Make sure to visit the site tomorrow to get tip #3 to earning more “looks”.

My Husband Slapped My Butt and I Blushed!

My Husband Slapped My Butt and I Blushed!

Lately my husband has been giving me “the look”. Not the “Chicken again?” look. Not the “take those loud kids out of here while I finish watching the game” look. But the “Next time I get you alone, it's on” look. Just the other day as I was leaving for work, he slapped me on my butt and bit his lip, and gave me “the look”. I liked it!

I have been getting the look more often and I know why. I have been putting in work. I have been strategically and purposely earning the look. Here are 5 tips to help you get a butt slap and “the look”.

1. Loose a few pounds. - Yes I had to go there and I had to go there first. It is no secret that life and all of its responsibilities pack on pounds. The change in hormones, child bearing, work schedules, raising children, and all that comes with age has made staying “fit” a challenge. My goal is not getting “High school skinny” because I live a grown woman's life. However, there is a huge canyon sized gap between being high school skinny and being old lady obese. It’s our responsibility, to ourselves first and our husband second, to find the most manageable and healthy median between those two extremes. Our goal should be to live in our best bodies. That “best body” will depend on your age, lifestyle, health, and personal goals. As you work towards your individual best body, you will find your husband finding you as attractive as he did when he first met you. There are a million different diets, programs, gyms, and trainers that you can select to get started. Here are 5 tips that should be incorporated into any health lifestyle option you choose.

1. Say “No” more than you say “Yes”. - Extra food will always be available. The donuts your coworker brings to work to celebrate Friday. The extra French fries at the bottom of your child’s happy meal box. Or any number of countless – unaccounted for calories. Say “no” to them because they add up. Use apps such as My Fitness Pal to track ALL calories.
2. Say “Yes” more than you say “No”. - Extra activity will always be available. The next time your daughter says “Mom, let’s just park back here.”  Don’t respond by saying, “Nah, lets drive around one more time to see if we can get anything closer.” Or when a co workers says “This elevator is really slow today. Let's take the elevator”. Don’t say “Girl, you must be crazy. That’s 4 flights of stairs”. Be aware of opportunities to take extra steps and burn more calories. They add up. Use a Fit Bit or another similar device to make a daily competition with yourself.
3. Don't drink your calories. - Sodas and fruit juices are tasty but costly. One 20 ounce Dr Pepper (250 calories) is the caloric equivalent of two chicken soft tacos. I don’t know about you, but I would rather eat my calories. As a general rule, my drink options account for no more than 10% of my total daily caloric intake.
4. Moderation not deprivation. Some days you may want a strawberry shake with caramel and whip cream on top. Other days the blinking “Hot Now” sign at Krispy Kreme will put you under hypnosis and lour you to the drive through. That's fine. Treat yourself. Just make sure that your “cheat days” are the exception and not the norm.
5. #EDDS – Every Day Do Something. Some days you would rather veg out on the couch and watch episodes of Parenthood on Netflix instead of working out. That’s ok, don’t beat yourself up. Just hit it harder the next day. A good rule of thumb is 4-for-40. Make it your goal to do at least 40 minutes of activity at least 4 days a week. Just make sure on the days you don’t work out, you lower your caloric intake. Every day do something towards your fitness goals.
   Make sure to visit the site tomorrow for the second tip!