My Husband Slapped My Butt and I Blushed!

My Husband Slapped My Butt and I Blushed!

Lately my husband has been giving me “the look”. Not the “Chicken again?” look. Not the “take those loud kids out of here while I finish watching the game” look. But the “Next time I get you alone, it's on” look. Just the other day as I was leaving for work, he slapped me on my butt and bit his lip, and gave me “the look”. I liked it!

I have been getting the look more often and I know why. I have been putting in work. I have been strategically and purposely earning the look. Here are 5 tips to help you get a butt slap and “the look”.

1. Loose a few pounds. - Yes I had to go there and I had to go there first. It is no secret that life and all of its responsibilities pack on pounds. The change in hormones, child bearing, work schedules, raising children, and all that comes with age has made staying “fit” a challenge. My goal is not getting “High school skinny” because I live a grown woman's life. However, there is a huge canyon sized gap between being high school skinny and being old lady obese. It’s our responsibility, to ourselves first and our husband second, to find the most manageable and healthy median between those two extremes. Our goal should be to live in our best bodies. That “best body” will depend on your age, lifestyle, health, and personal goals. As you work towards your individual best body, you will find your husband finding you as attractive as he did when he first met you. There are a million different diets, programs, gyms, and trainers that you can select to get started. Here are 5 tips that should be incorporated into any health lifestyle option you choose.

1. Say “No” more than you say “Yes”. - Extra food will always be available. The donuts your coworker brings to work to celebrate Friday. The extra French fries at the bottom of your child’s happy meal box. Or any number of countless – unaccounted for calories. Say “no” to them because they add up. Use apps such as My Fitness Pal to track ALL calories.
2. Say “Yes” more than you say “No”. - Extra activity will always be available. The next time your daughter says “Mom, let’s just park back here.”  Don’t respond by saying, “Nah, lets drive around one more time to see if we can get anything closer.” Or when a co workers says “This elevator is really slow today. Let's take the elevator”. Don’t say “Girl, you must be crazy. That’s 4 flights of stairs”. Be aware of opportunities to take extra steps and burn more calories. They add up. Use a Fit Bit or another similar device to make a daily competition with yourself.
3. Don't drink your calories. - Sodas and fruit juices are tasty but costly. One 20 ounce Dr Pepper (250 calories) is the caloric equivalent of two chicken soft tacos. I don’t know about you, but I would rather eat my calories. As a general rule, my drink options account for no more than 10% of my total daily caloric intake.
4. Moderation not deprivation. Some days you may want a strawberry shake with caramel and whip cream on top. Other days the blinking “Hot Now” sign at Krispy Kreme will put you under hypnosis and lour you to the drive through. That's fine. Treat yourself. Just make sure that your “cheat days” are the exception and not the norm.
5. #EDDS – Every Day Do Something. Some days you would rather veg out on the couch and watch episodes of Parenthood on Netflix instead of working out. That’s ok, don’t beat yourself up. Just hit it harder the next day. A good rule of thumb is 4-for-40. Make it your goal to do at least 40 minutes of activity at least 4 days a week. Just make sure on the days you don’t work out, you lower your caloric intake. Every day do something towards your fitness goals.
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